Goodbye 2013…

In my drafts folder, I have a post I’d been working on that speaks about how much can change in a year. It really can. I’d written how in the last year and a bit, I’ve been in four different jobs and lived in four different places. I had felt a bit lost, but I was writing about how now, at the end of 2013, I am finally in a proper, grown-up, progressive job that I am (or at least will be) good at and how I am living in the city I love with the man I adore, after 18 months of long distance. (It was all a bit smug really.)

Then, just over a week before Christmas, the man I adore decided he is no longer happy in our home, and left. And now, comparing my life to 12 months ago seems frankly ridiculous, as the biggest change has happened almost immediately. A lot can change in a year, but then even more can in just one moment. There’s a lot I don’t know now, including where I’ll end up living.

I  thought I had 2014 all sorted and settled. As if life is that simple. Last year, I tried to set new goals at the start of every month, and review them as I went along, as I thought this ‘bite size’ approach was better than leaving the same unattainable targets hanging for a whole year. Well that didn’t work either. If these last few weeks have taught me anything it’s that as much as I want to be an organised, super planned control freak, a lot of the time you just have to roll with the punches. So that’s what I’m trying, and will continue to try, to do. Change can happen at anytime, someone just needs to inflict it.

So, here’s to a year full of uncertainty. A year of being strong no matter what happens.

16 Comments

  1. December 29, 2013 / 5:27 pm

    I am sorry to hear, but if anything at least this new year will truly be a “clean slate”… I am like you, I want everything neatly organized in boxes in my head (and my kitchen) and when it doesn’t go quite according to plan, or perhaps life gets in the way, I go a bit mental… I suppose at times like that my goals get to be “get through the day without crying on the tube” or “don’t hit anyone at work”… I like the idea of small goals, I like the idea of big goals… I also like the idea of no goals… Anyway, however we structure our resolutions, I am sure we will kick 2014’s ass… If you ask me, 2013 was never going to be worth remembering anyway.

  2. December 29, 2013 / 5:59 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear this Lissy. My relationship of 5years just ended as well and I feel like all my carefully laid plans and goals have just been blown apart! But you can rebuild, and come back stronger 🙂 here’s to a great 2014 for us both. X

    • December 29, 2013 / 6:04 pm

      Thank you so much 🙂 And definitely… for one, we’ve got a marathon (relay!) to run! x

  3. December 29, 2013 / 7:14 pm

    Sorry to hear this Lissy, life is never simple and easy, something always lurking around the corner! You are totally right about just rolling with the punches though. Hope 2014 will be a good one for you!

  4. December 29, 2013 / 7:37 pm

    Hey doll 🙂 if there is one thing I know it’s that you are not alone! At the start of this year I was engaged, moved to live with my fiancé and by the middle of the year I was a victim of emotional domestic abuse and back in london with nowhere to live and no job!

    It defo takes time! and now is the time that your family and real friends step up to be there for you and show you that you will come out of this stronger and wiser!

    do things that make you happy! and don’t look back hun xxx

    • December 29, 2013 / 10:50 pm

      Thank you so much for this comment. Today has been a really tough day & felt like I’ve taken a step backwards. Your comment has really helped – I just need to remember that time is the answer xx

  5. December 30, 2013 / 5:22 pm

    Hey Lissy, already sending you my positive thoughts but just to say I hope you’re doing “ok”, sorry to hear you’re going through a hard time, it feels especially difficult during this Christmas/New Year period (or at least for me it does!), but a lot of TLC I think is the key (and being gentle on yourself on the sadder days, it’s all part of the process, right?!).

    Here’s to a better 2014, and hoping that the dust will settle soon 🙂 Your marathon training sounds like the perfect distraction/project!

    Lucy x

    • January 1, 2014 / 8:29 pm

      Thanks Lucy! I was reading your blog today and clicked through to your post on things changing when you move in with someone and it really struck a chord. It really helped knowing that I’m not alone in this and that it will get better!

      So looking forward to getting properly stuck in with marathon training now the festivities are out of the way – I think you’re right & it could be perfect timing 🙂 x

      • January 1, 2014 / 11:10 pm

        Definitely, it happens to the best of us (because obviously we are the best 😉 ) and so is completely normal and not something we should feel bad or guilty about. Shit just happens sometimes! Take care, and good luck for the training! x

  6. February 5, 2014 / 2:25 am

    Sorry to read your bad news. It gets better. It really does.

    You don’t have to be strong all the time. No one can.

    You’re new in the world again, which is why you want to cry. Babies know this. It is their wisdom.

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